Bookmark purge

In my departure post at Automattic I said that I did not want to spend so much time in front of a computer. Reasonable I thought. But Covid….

I do not count gaming as ‘being in front of a computer’ even though it very obviously is. (Diablo 3 Season 22 starts tomorrow…). Gaming is escape. It was non-escape that I wanted to reduce. I probably have, but I have also amassed more sites to read/scroll/refresh.

After removing the reddit app from the phone/ipad I looked yesterday at browser bookmarks (Firefox is synced across devices). I had heaps and heaps of them. Time to pare them down.

Have I looked at it in 6 months? If not, delete.
Has it been useful to read? If not, delete.
Is the community positive for me? If not, delete.
I had other little rules.
While the TV was droning on in the background I opened each bookmark folder, looked at links and deleted a ton of them.

I then did the same with RSS feeds in Newsblur.

Apps on the mobile devices were purged in the same way.

This morning, after I’d got the financial stuff sorted (prev post), I started reading ‘my usuals’. Took only a very few minutes. Repetition of articles was massively reduced. That left me enough time to get up to speed on domestic chores. I wasn’t sitting there staring at a screen for so long.

Hopefully this stays as a positive.



Therapy dogs

Lottie’s been voted of GBBO. Just the latest in the bad choices the judges are making so I’ll skip the rest of the series.

Walkers Doritos have got much thinner. Not good.

The weighted blanket has been chucked in the spare room. Back to just a (single) duvet. My sleep quality remains terrible. I can go to sleep just fine, I can sleep for 7/8/9 hours and yet I wake feeling like crap, wanting to go back to sleep. If it wasn’t for the dogs I would. No idea at all how to change this.
The bad dreams continue.

Youngest’s wedding was nuked by the bastard bozo. It’s now set for just before xmas.

Currently reading:
– Atheist Manifesto (Hitchens)
– Blackwater (Scahill)

Thought about staying up overnight to watch the USA burn but hey, the flames will still be there in the morning and beyond.

A bush

In a Slack channel with friends and dating apps / approaches was suddenly the topic.
One comment:

Seems like there’s less beating around the bush in gay dating.

Easily the funniest thing I’ve read this week.

Rambly ramble

Given the death tolls/rates in Italy/Spain it shows just how much China has lied

I’m in day two of a daith-modified migraine, so none of the pain but all of the sickness / dizziness

Shaved my head. Bad idea as it’s really damn cold

Love Pizza but need to eat less so I bought a Pizza Oven (G3 Ferrari) so I can make my own but less calorie heavy

Tomorrow I post what a couple of you already know about

Homemade Tomato & Chilli soup (Katy Beskow recipe) is the best ever

Why has a speeding bullet not met D. Trump yet?

In the last post I said Covid had not affected me. Wrong. I’m still getting used to living alone. The pub and the local shop were my only socialisation chances. Like so very many people I am realising just how important they were and they will be in the future.

Current earworm

This is good

This also is good

Meh day

Having a total meh day today. Can’t get going to do anything be that gaming, laundry, (the usual) cleaning, TV. No clue why but it’ll pass.


My left arm sleeve was completed last week and my left calf sleeve will complete this Thursday. Very happy with both. Pics when done. It’ll be strange not going to see Neil every Thursday. No more tattoo plans yet.

Saw Aruna (from the Widow/er/s group) as usual on Wednesday and we had a good natter. The Wetherspoon I go in after that was probably half empty. The local pub last night felt like a Tuesday, not many in.

The news I’ll reveal in 17 days took a large concrete step forward yesterday too. Makes things real. Which is good. No regrets.

Got thanked from the Tesco Home Delivery driver yesterday for not ordering toilet paper and pasta 🙂

I bought an iron

Wednesday. It’s my Saturday and on Saturdays I head into the city for matcha latte. Last year I started a group for widow/ers in this city/shire. 41 people joined but only a few turned up to the regular Wednesday meeting.
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It then became really just 4 of us. Given that charge around £28/month just to have a group and between the 4 of us we could use text message I stopped the group. Saw no reason to keep it going.
One lady has been there more than anyone – Aruna – and today, like last week and next week we met up.

Chat ranges around many subjects and it’s always lovely to talk to her. I talked today about my plan for this coming year. No-one else at all knows, so it was good to talk about what I want to do, how, etc etc. It’s good to get suggestions and validation.

I love matcha latte
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Last week, this was at Orso in Leicester.
Really cool indy coffee/tea/matcha/chai place.
How cool? Every drink comes with a custard cream biscuit.
That’s how cool.
No fancy stuff, just a proper British Biscuit.

Tomorrow is more tattoo time, leg or arm, whichever Neil wants to do. And twice this week I’ve has a comment about my left hand tattoo. Both guys recognised it as Persian which was cool.

MUST remember to do my tax return tomorrow.

First post in a while…..

I closed the site, moved to Tumblr, moved to a jekyll static site, moved back to Tumblr, tried a couple of other blogging options, went back to Jekyll (and GitHub) and over the last few weeks decided that I wanted to re-open this site. It’s been here since Jan 2004 so why not.

Apart from the grieving, crying, depression, getting used to but still hating the silence, losing weight and some other things I’ll never write about here, what’s happened then?

Been to Birmingham to meet up again with the very wonderful UK Bodyart bunch and to wish Claire – that’s the Claire in the tagline up top – a fab time in Boston where she moved to.
Been to Bristol twice to see Jennifer and Matt
Been to Gdansk and met the brilliant Team Neptune who I work with at Automattic (Gdansk is beautiful. Really cool place, one I’d love to go back to)

Started volunteering at the local library and I’ll be sorting out their website for them.

Started a Widows/Widowers group. We’ve had 3 meetings so far and more will happen.

Got a VPS on Ramnode so I can learn more command line and play with interesting things I find on Github.

Started learning CSS properly (for work)

Started learning python (to exercise my brain)

Now the PS Vita is discontinued bought another and implemented the Trinity exploit so I can load a stack of different games onto it.

And I’ve done a few things to my body:

– retired venom piercings done in January and have since had another tongue piercing. Centre tongue stretched to 5mm.

– Was suspended by two hooks in my back.


– Had a magnet inserted into a finger


– Had my chest tattoo touched up


– Got a leg tattoo


– Had a chip implanted into each hand


– Got a bright semicolon tattoo


(More pictures on Smugmug)

Next month I get my left arm finished (or very close to) before the Automattic Meetup in Florida.
And on the 27th of this month I am in Bristol to get hung up again – this time with hooks in my back and my legs.

I find the world without Jacqui to be a very different place. Very lonely, very quiet. It’s hard sometimes. Rattling around in this house with only the dogs to talk to still feels weird. It’s only in the last week I’ve finally got all the paperwork sorted out following her death.

Twitter is shit
Mastodon is cool
Tildes is cool
Zoho Notebook is very cool, as is Marsedit

Pic unrelated

Brought back the tagline I had years ago on T2. Seems appropriate today……

Debating getting a new piercing. It’s been years since I had one, but with the lobe stretching, tongue bar being back and the PA back to 10mm I sort of feel the need.

Had some really great family news, and as with all silver clouds there is a dark lining so there is bad news too.