Bend at the toes

Rowed 5000m and then an hour later another 2500m during a long gym session earlier, and got some technique advice from a personal trainer there which was cool. The new way of moving feels very odd and it’s taking some concentration but I’ll get there. I shifted a couple of the weights up too – more due to forgetfulness rather than a desire to improve. Can’t decide if saying 5000m or 5km is more motivating to myself.

Moving. We now have the option for both houses, so we need to make a decision – and then get something signed. J wants one, I want the other. We both object to the houses we don’t like and we’ve been unable to agree (if you are male, read that as me being continually pointed at the option I don’t want and being nagged about it, whereas if you are female you will be thinking that I should do what the woman wants as she is undoubtedly seeing something I cannot). So later we shall have some sort of family discussion – I will lose I’m sure. (And the one I do not want is about 4-5 miles away – in the opposite direction to the gym).

7 thoughts on “Bend at the toes

  1. (if you are male, read that as me being continually pointed at the option I don’t want and being nagged about it, whereas if you are female you will be thinking that I should do what the woman wants as she is undoubtedly seeing something I cannot)

    Do we, both genders, suck that badly? I hope not. I was just feeling sorry that you’re each unhappy with one of the options, wishing there were a house you both liked.

  2. I understand ‘woman-speak’ quite well

    Really?

    So far I get:

    woman continually pointing man at option he doesn’t want
    woman nags man
    woman thinks man should do what she wants
    woman thinks she sees what man cannot

    It doesn’t sound like understanding, Mark.
    It sounds like labeling, blaming, ranting.

    Not that you don’t get to do those things on your blog. I do them on mine all the time.

    But is there something in your usage of the word “understand” that includes recognition of validity? Or is it entirely objectifying, processing of the other, “I know what you’re about/how you think entirely based on your genitalia”?

    I realize you’re probably referring to some degree to a book you’ve read (and that I haven’t) when you say “woman-speak”, but when you extend that to all women (“if you are female you will be thinking that…”) and analogously for men it seems to shortchange both, presuming to know what someone will think and how they’ll say it based solely on gender.

    I like to think that I may, upon seeing a disagreement between friends, see pros and cons on either side based on what’s actually happening. (And surely, also based on what I bring to the situation, but I think that what I bring isn’t solely based on my gender either.)

    This whole thing makes me sad.

  3. It’s frustration, sheer frustration at everything in my world being out of my control right now.

    Cut or cry.
    Or both.

    It’s nothing more than me trying to express myself and because I never ever edit posts, or draft entries, when I write it comes out maybe not in a polished way. But that’s how I blog. It’s actually how I think blogs should be.

    But right now ? I am incredibly frustrated and this house issue is yet another “thing”.

    There you go.

  4. I’m sorry Mark.
    (This is not a response to your last 2 comments. I came here to write this and then saw them.)
    I’m messed up over crap in my own life and then read your blog and started writing too fast. again.
    So sorry both that all this crap is coming down on you and that I jumped in like that. I hope it lets up soon and is as liveable as possible in the meantime.
    ((((Mark))))

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